• Thanks for Unanswered Prayers
    A Message for the Class of 2019 - And All Parents

    Congratulations Graduates written in cursive with a grad cap on top

    Dear Most Marvelous Members of The Class of 2019:

    Warm congratulations to you on your impending graduation from high school. On behalf of the Board of Trustees and the staff of the San Mateo Union High School District, I wish you all the best as you go forth from our schools and programs to great things.

    I was recently thinking about my own graduation, forty years ago. I can’t believe it has been that long. If you think your four years of high school have gone quickly, as you get older life feels a bit like a paper towel roll -- it just speeds up as it unrolls!

    When I finished high school I wanted to be the world’s next great two-sport star. I was “madly” in love with my high school sweetheart and thought she was the one. I saw college as a chance to explore medicine as a potential career.

    Alas, all of this changed within two years. College was greatly defined by my coming to grips with my “athletic death”  as it became increasingly clear that there were others more talented athletically than I. After eighteen months my high school romance came to an excruciating end. I lasted a week in a pre-med class.

    It took me at least five years to come to grips with these perceived setbacks.  As I look back on this time, however, I give thanks for unanswered prayers! The unanticipated abrupt end to my athletic career opened up for me the chance to explore other activities and interests. I now realize that I don’t have the temperament or drive to be a physician. And even though she broke my heart, my ex-girlfriend would have been an utterly terrible life partner!

    It’s entirely possible that your experiences of loss, setback, and disappointment in your young life may already exceed mine.  It’s certainly true that some tragedies feel impervious to explanation. But perhaps some of what we experience as unanswered prayers are actually the world unfolding exactly as it should, unfolding in magical ways that make our lives even more  wonderful than we could have ever dreamed.

    And that’s what we wish for you.